You’ve tried everything – and they just WON’T change!

You are probably right. It’s been my experience that no one seems to change unless they want to change, and it’s their decision to do so (no matter how they are reasoned with, cajoled, yelled at, or loved into changing,). If you have ever made it a point to change or control another, you likely understand this.

Step back for just a moment and reflect on how you feel when someone tries to change or control you. Perhaps we can agree that no one likes it.

Yet, can it work? If you reach for each other and genuinely want to try to make things better – yes, you can have positive results. For the purpose of this article however, let’s assume that someone you have tried to work with, just isn’t responding at all, and shows no sign of doing so. History repeating itself might indicate that you might stop doing what you are doing, to get a new result!

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Reach for your Noble Self

How we can reach our Nobility (our Noble Self) in the moments when we are faced with life’s ongoing challenges and curve-balls? And what do I mean by the “Noble Self”, anyway?

I mean that part of you that knows best what to do. That wise part of you. That part of you that knows on a visceral level, how to handle anything. It’s when you get that gut level knowing of what to do. That part of you that tries to live in a truthful way with clarity and purity. With grace.

Yes, we’re imperfect, every one of us. We have all had experiences when we’ve reacted in ways we are not proud of. We have also been the recipients of horrid behavior by others. With respect, we will just call that an aspect of our collective Humanity.

What matters most is the decision we make in those moments. What we want to try is something new (so we get a different outcome!). That’s where our Noble Self can help.

I know you have touched in to your Noble Self, for those are the moments when you feel complete and at ease, detached and free – and loving. Decisions and actions feel right. Totally right.

In every moment of every day, we do have choice – in how we react to people, situations, and world affairs - and yet it is these very moments when we may not feel like we have choice at all.

Often we feel like control has been taken from us. So we reach (or should I say, grasp) to take back control, and yet our need to have control in those times is exactly what can take us off course. Not only do we risk making the wrong decision/comment, we can actually become resistant to that which could actually help us.

How does that happen? Why are we suddenly feeling out of control, unbalanced, feeling doubt about what we should or shouldn’t do, or just feeling over-powered by what the day has presented us with? And too, there can be that negative, internal dialogue that comes in and takes over, confusing us further. A negative voice that somehow is always making us wrong, and others too.

I would like to help you REMEMBER your path to your own Nobility. It is in this place you will easily find answers for yourself.

How do I know this? Because I like you, have been presented with choices in the moment, and I’ve made mistakes. Plenty of them! Yet I’ve learned a few things about all this.

I have learned to re-train my brain to react in different ways. I have learned how to find another road to travel, one paved with compassion for myself and others. A road in which I feel supported, where I am no longer alone.

I have come to a place of understanding that all the answers I seek lie within my Noble Self...that noble nature that is a part of me – and you! We all carry this wavelength and it thrums within us. I have trained to this position of knowing how to do this, and I am blessed to now become a trainer or teacher in it. (Ultimately it is our “cosmic job” to share Knowledge).

I know it doesn’t sound easy, especially when you’re angry, resentful, and upset. Where is that higher road?! Yet it is easy...because it is already part of you. This Noble You – exists. It always has existed. We all lose our way from time to time. We just need to “re-find” it.

You may disbelieve that you are of a noble nature. So to help you with that, my first question for you that may help provide insight for you, is this:

Do you know yourself well enough to know “what you will and will not do”? In other words, is there a noble part of you that would not harm a child...that would not abuse those within our beloved and holy animal kingdom – and so on. This is a big question: do you know what you will and will not do? My guess is that, yes, you do know...

A second question: Is there a part of you that knows without a doubt, that you are certainly imperfect, yet not in any way intentionally deceitful or harmful toward others?

These are important points. For if you have made mistakes and not forgiven yourself (or others), or believe yourself undeserving of your rights to grow and evolve, you may simply be ignoring your own nobility... shutting down that part of you that can change and can make new decisions for yourself. You may have simply forgotten that there is something much “bigger”, something far more “noble” at play here.

When you allow yourself to elevate and touch in with your true Noble Self, you open up the magic again. You may have felt you lost that magic. You open up to synchronicity again, and you thought you had lost that too.

If you feel you have lost that part of you...of being able to live with kindness and flow in your life for yourself and others, I urge you to consider this: you had this once – and you still have it. I know you can remember times when you were elated with the sense of knowing EXACTLY what to do and you did not hesitate to commit to action. Or you were so alive in your passion for something that was so important to you and you knew how to do it. Or you fought for and won something in your life – with grace.

If you ever experienced any of this, your nobility was at play. Our human self is not wrong, but it struggles. It struggles with not being good enough, not being perfect enough, not being something enough.

I ask you to consider opening up that part of you again – to re-acquaint yourself with your Noble Nature.

If you are willing to do that, when the next person or situation that drives you into familiar old patterns (that really aren’t you) and don’t serve you any more, simply call upon this VERY REAL part of you. Then, put it in the lead.

Be gracious. Why not? Has the other option been working?

Be disciplined. Not in a harsh way. Be disciplined in calling upon your better self, in a way that will make you more centered, present, confident and fair – first with yourself and then with others.

Be reverent. Be reverent of the fact that there is something much larger at play in your life. Something that would call you toward your Destiny if you would only allow it.

To start exploring this concept:

There is a quiet place within you. Go find it. However you might do this, go find it: perhaps while in nature, maybe within your mind, in your meditation, or while watching your child sleep.

Reach for your noble nature in that moment of silent reverie, and extend your invitation to have magic, ease and flow in your life once again. Breathe deeply to calm the heart and mind. Keep breathing deeply and ready yourself for new information to come forward.

It is then that you may begin to ask your questions, seek guidance of a higher order. The voice within (your spirit self) will show you the path. It will be a loving and compassionate voice. The voice of Truth.

However you receive your information, do listen. It’s the true voice, the real voice, the one that loves you – no matter what. You may “see” your answers in vision, or “feel” your answers in your calmed emotions, or “hear” the kind and loving tone of your spirit self.

You may find you want support in this journey. Find like-minded people who will be positive and supportive. Find classes that train you in this powerful way of improving your life.

Spend a few moments every day, touching into your Noble Self. Just a few minutes. Meditate, be silent with you can hear what you need to learn about yourself. Watch your life transform when you bring your noble nature into your every day life.

If you are reading this and it has in any way touched you, please ignite your cosmic responsibility to share what you know, and send this to someone who needs guidance and a loving tone to hear in their heart and soul.

Let’s continue the dialogue.

In conversation with Source about depression

Hello Source, it fills my soul to dialogue with you in this way, thank you.

Child of mine, you are welcome always. Always.

Source, may we talk today of depression. I have suffered with it from time to time, and I know so many people who do as well.

The counsel you seek is within, for therein lies the depression – a singularly negative mode of self-talk and self-sabotage.

And yet we feel unable to control it or come ‘out of it’.

There are no simple miracles here, for each of you are so uniquely beautiful, and uniquely troubled.

What is depression, Source?

It is a wave that washes over you – and a wave of negativity that feels as if it actually permeates your very soul and every fibre of your being.

Yes, exactly! That what it feels like. What can we do to rid ourselves of this darkness within?

Dear child, this darkness is not “of” you. It never was. And so, I ask thee to think of it as an invasion upon you – as an enemy – one which represents the opposite of who you really are. For you are the opposite: you are the Light.

And so, Source – about this enemy. What can we do when feeling helpless against it?

First and foremost, understand it is not you, despite your unending thoughts that it is. Once defined as an enemy, I ask that you fight for yourself and your right to live in freedom.


You must somehow find your magic again if only for a moment…then you have leverage.

What magic?

For each of you it will be something different. Perhaps a memory of loving your child (or your own child within) so immensely. Perhaps the undeniable beauty you experience when in a wooded glen. Find that picture in your mind, and feel it in your heart. Then, jump. JUMP up and hold on to it. This is your step-up to come up and out of “your” so-called depression. Remember, it is not “yours”…

God, why is it so hard to accomplish this?

Your Earth is a planet of beauty, and nourishment, and Love. It is also true however, that negative energy exists – and sometimes it is free-floating. Add to this that you are the sum of all your experiences – so you easily default to the memory of previous immense pain – and that is enough to draw or attract negativity to you again. And yet it appears new and very real.

So you are saying that depression is memory?

Not exactly. But painful memory can attract a repeat episode of reaction.

God, what about the times when I just seem to “snap out of it”? I am not sure how that happens.

Lest you forget, your brain and heart are connected. They decide in concert. But know this: your heart will lead and your brain will follow. In those moments when you ‘snap out of it’ as you say, those are the moments when your heart decides (through new stimulation or simply the dreary-ness of being unfulfilled) to rise up and make an attempt toward happiness once again.

God, what else on this topic would you share?

Your fight dear one, for your soul, for your freedom, for your eternal search to live an authentic life – this fight to rise above and become more – is why you are here in the first place. In this regard, you might consider the topic of depression as one way you have chosen to know yourself and ultimately heal– to discover that you are willing to fight for your right to be Love and walk in Love. For truly, there is little else to do but fight for your Nobility.


Note from Vals: So many friends have urged me to publish my “Source Notes”. For many years, I have been able to ‘download’ my conversations with the Universe. It’s akin to what Neale Donald Walsh did with his series “Conversations with God”.  Here’s how it works for me: I tap into the Universal principles of wisdom available to us all: I ask a question, I await in receptivity with pen poised, and VOILA – I get answers, often deeply moving to me  and to the many friends I have introduced this writing to. Hope you enjoy my posts (uh, conversations)…

here goes…conversations from Source

Sharing with you, a conversation today, about 2012 and destiny…

Hello Source (God, Allah, Mohammed – it makes no difference – it is our connection to something greater, something much much bigger than our human selves – our Noble Self):

Hello Source, What will 2012 mean to us?

A time to reflect on who you really are – where you have come from and ultimately your personal plan of excellence…2012 will be about you, knowing that you are more than you know – yet.

Source, how can we know what we are meant to be – what our destiny is?

There is confusion here. Your individual destiny is a collective and thus you fight your reality.

How do we know then?

When you feel a ‘tingle’ of recognition of that which is Truth for you – and only you – you have put your foot upon the path of your personal destiny.

Conversely, how do we know when we have mis-stepped?

The easiest way of all. No part of your body responds to that thought. Your body is wise.

Source, what is the source of all wisdom (true wisdom)?

It is the alchemy that happens when you latch onto a sudden wealth. You suddenly feel rich in every way. You feel altruistic. You feel bigger. This is the source you tap into, that wisdom. The Source of all-one. Those moments when even if you feel wrong, you feel right.

Starting the conversation

Leap of faith! So many friends have urged me to publish my “Source Notes”. For many years, I have been able to ‘download’ my conversations with the Universe. It’s not unlike what Neale Donald Walsh did with his series “Conversations with God“.Here’s how it works for me: I tap into Universal principles of wisdom and love that is available to us all: I ask a question, I await in receptivity with pen poised, and VOILA – I get deeply moving answers. Hope you enjoy my posts (uh, conversations)…